How Does Anger Affect You?
Written by Julian Hall on December 3, 2010
As anger over the way support services deal with snowfall grows, the impact of anger on those closest to us has never been more pronounced. The UK anger management specialists, BAAM, launched a new section to their website in support of those who suffer anger from others, especially in relationships. Mike Fisher, Director of BAAM, said “Since 1998 we have been helping people learn to control their anger, and therefore implicitly helping those affected by the anger, but this is the first time we have offered something directly to the sufferers. These figures show the real impact of anger on others. “
62.5% of those surveyed who visited the BAAM sufferer’s website said they were suffering a combination of anger, verbal abuse and emotional abuse. 25% said they were suffering anger only.
“This goes to show the complexities of what anger does to others and how it is perceived by the person on the receiving end. “ Julian Hall, Clinic Director in Derby. “People that attend our courses not only learn to manage their anger but also get deeper more meaningful relationships. However, we decided we wanted to give better support to those that suffer another’s anger. This is why we set up the web pages for sufferers”
The site provides lots of information for the sufferer. They are also able to leave comments describing how it affects them. One contributor described the effect of anger as:
“It affects your whole life - all aspects of yourself - e.g. emotional, social life, career/work life - it hurts and makes you cringe and it is embarrassing - affects your whole family and stops you from saying what you want or feel (prevents you from expressing yourself and be the real you) - it makes you feel stupid and insignificant and disrespected.”
For more information go to www.beatinganger.com/sufferer.
About The Author
I chose to train with the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) after observing bullying in the workplace and becoming interested in the after effects of anger on the individual. I offer one to one coaching as well as group programmes.
Most recently I have been training staff dealing with the top 2% of problem families in the borough of Ealing, West London as well as helping teachers and carers in Rochdale understand anger.
Recommendations have led me to be working with adults with learning difficulties and addictions centres.
I have also developed bespoke programmes for companies, with emphasis on call centres. These help employees deal with the effects of anger directed at them and can be particularly effective at improving staff morale and reducing absenteeism.
